Circle of security: I attended a wonderful workshop on how to parent your child so they develop a secure attachment. I think it actually ended up helping me in how to relate to my own inner child as well. Below is an image that I found useful to map my own inner child's immediate needs from time to time -- seems obvious for some, but it wasn't to me. Children go back and forth between exploring and wanting comfort - so our parents' job was to be a secure base for exploration and a safe haven when we come back. As children get older, they explore more and more, but they still need a safe haven to come back to, whether they are infants or teenagers.
Limited security occurs when a parent is unable/unwilling to meet some or all of these needs: (in comments)
thanks for this Arati really good hugs ciao Marta 😎